Childhood wounds can come from many places.
Sometimes they are from the places we usually think of like trauma or abuse but they just as often can come from things like stress in the family as a child, divorce, loss, parents who weren't emotionally mature & even from loving parents who just didn't know how to meet all of our needs.
What's so important about them is that they impact YOU and the way you feel about yourself and your life. They become the thoughts and the feelings that are always rolling around telling us that we aren't enough or no one will love us if we show up as ourselves.
Some of the most common ways they can manifest is...
So if you are working on healing your childhood wounds, let me share a few things I've found to be so helpful in my own healing & also with my clients.
#1 PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR FEELINGS
How you feel when you're triggered is usually a re-enactment of the past. It's your emotions from that original...
Negative Self Talk
This is one of those areas that can show up as the drive to be perfect. To do more. To do better because you never feel like you’ve done enough. It hides under the guise of being a “perfectionist”…. I know… what could be wrong with wanting something to be perfect right? We all want to do a good job. To feel proud of what we’ve accomplished and make sure we deliver what we agree to deliver.
This negative self talk is really a culmination of all the things you’ve been told or believe about yourself to be lacking, hiding under the mask of needing to get it “right.” For most of us, it starts early in our life when feel like we have to earn some type of love or appreciation. Maybe you were told you weren’t good enough so you choose to prove people wrong. Maybe you are afraid to get something wrong because there’s fear of some type of consequence you’ve had in the past. Either way,...