Childhood wounds can come from many places.
Sometimes they are from the places we usually think of like trauma or abuse but they just as often can come from things like stress in the family as a child, divorce, loss, parents who weren't emotionally mature & even from loving parents who just didn't know how to meet all of our needs.
What's so important about them is that they impact YOU and the way you feel about yourself and your life. They become the thoughts and the feelings that are always rolling around telling us that we aren't enough or no one will love us if we show up as ourselves.
Some of the most common ways they can manifest is...
So if you are working on healing your childhood wounds, let me share a few things I've found to be so helpful in my own healing & also with my clients.
#1 PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR FEELINGS
How you feel when you're triggered is usually a re-enactment of the past. It's your emotions from that original experience(s) that is surfacing again to let you know something is off.
Embrace these feelings as messages and note what emotions they truly are, because while fear might be the thing you notice first, when you dig it may have some heartache or anger buried under it.
#2 COMFORT YOURSELF
When you notice these feelings and old stories showing up, ask yourself "what do I need?" This can take some digging if you're new to it or things have been pushed down.
Do you need physical comfort like rest or food? Do you need a hug? Or kind words? Notice what you need and give it to yourself.
#3 CREATE A PRACTICE OF CHECKING IN
Create a simple practice of tuning in each day to ask your Inner Child what they need. When you're healing, this keeps you in contact with that part of yourself that was wounded and makes it feel like a priority again.
Some days it may need to cry, to play, to be outside, to write a letter about how it felt... don't force it to be anything other than what it is.
When we heal these wounds, there can be many layers and many paths we want to follow... and all of that is perfect, so trust yourself. These 3 simple steps will help you stay connected and make your own Inner Child feel seen and heard which is one of the most powerful catalyst for healing itself!
And if you want more support or to work 1:1 on your own healing, you can always schedule a session HERE