MY HEALING PHILOSOPHY
Less survivng. More THRIVING.
I know what it's like to be the scapegoat & the eldest daughter. To always feel like no matter how hard you try, you somehow fall short.
Spending years working hard to not be a burden to anyone but also never expecting anyone to actually show up for you. Pushing yourself to understand everyone else but no one ever considering you.
IT'S NOT HOW I WANTED TO LIVE
And I would bet money it's NOT how you want to live either.
Hey there, friend! My name is Aspen.
I help other scapegoats heal from the weight of growing up in a dysfunctional home. I don't believe that healing should take up your entire life(time.) The whole point of it, is to get back to living a life that feels RIGHT to you. One that's peaceful, safe, filled with loving people & most definitely one where you don't have to feel guilty for needing what you need.
I want you to wake up each morning & not feel the remnants of the past weighing you down or worries running non-stop in your mind. You were someone spectacular before you learned to survive & cope with life, let's get back to that.
TRUST ME
I've been in
your shoes
I started this work for myself around 2012 and little did I know at the time I would be doing this professionally over a decade later. I was just on a journey to feel better. I was so sick of the panic attacks & all night anxiety that made me feel like I was dying (I exaggerate but still!)
My son's premature birth started this adventure and once I realized how much it impacted me, I also realized that how I responded to it was way more related to what I had felt during childhood. Those old survival strategies may have worked then but they were destroying my health as an adult.
I spent decades of my life working as hard as I possibly could because I felt like I didn't have anyone to rely on and ALSO that I wasn't allowed to ask for help because I had to be "strong."
I can't even describe the mental turmoil I went through trying to keep it all together while I was fundamentally falling apart.
Childhood stories started surfacing, feelings I hadn't felt allowed to feel bubbled up & I couldn't push it down any longer.
So I faced it... and it was terrifying.
It was worth it but it did cost me family relationships. It cost me starting over in a lot of areas, if I'm being honest... facing things I would rather have avoided & being honest about what I had to change in order to heal.
And you know what I got in return?
I get to live a full life where I don't feel the need to apologize for who I am, I don't have anxiety over being misunderstood or not liked, I have peace in my BODY when I choose myself... and I have friendships & relationships that are HEALTHY. They literally FEEL GOOD & I FEEL LOVED.
I believe that if we heal the emotional trauma & the way the body responds through the nervous system, we can heal these patterns. I've seen it happen thousands of times over the years but more importantly, I've lived it and been through it myself.
I know how painful it is to be stuck in the trauma & desperately want a way out. That's what we do together in sessions, we heal so you don't have to re-live the past in your triggers, reactions & way you see yourself.
Most of us survived alone, which means healing HAS to happen with the support of others.
In order to heal from what you DIDN'T receive, give yourself what you didn't get. You have choice now... even if you didn't then.
And I get it. You aren't alone in it now. I'm here & I will share every insight, real life practice & resource I've gathered so you don't have to waste years building them like I did.
xxx
Aspen
It was incredible working together and your support is truly amazing. Working with you over the past 13 weeks and our session together has had a truly profound impact on my life, and it came at the perfect time. Very grateful for you.
Brandy M.
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